My mom always used to say, “You get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar”. Boy did that make me mad but she was right. I mentioned that to someone today because she was bemoaning her lack of friends and she is a very negative person. She gave me some vinegar in return. Ha!
If you lack support in your life, you MIGHT be the problem. There are exceptions to every rule of course but if no one wants to be around you…and you wish it were different, check yourself and see if you could be untentionally pushing people away.
I can very, very easily fall into behavior that pushes people away. Complaining, blaming, you get the picture. I try very hard to be positive and ask people how their day is going…then listen.
I have a friend I talk to on the phone a lot and recently, because he is a good listener, some how I fell into telling him ALL my problems evertime we talked. He didn’t seem to mind but ya know what? I MIND. *I* don’t even want to be around myself when I’m rehearsing my problems.
It gets really bad when Vinny (my van) breaks down. I get so scared and “how to afford repairs” becomes all consuming in my mind. Still I must remember that everyone has problems and it’s not fair to unload on people.
I hope my new friend prays (she is Christian) and considers what I have said. It’s up to her.
I suppose she can be a vinegar fly if she wants! 🙂