Some people change friends as often as they change their underwear. This is because they don’t know what REAL friendship is. They are called fair-weather friends who turn on you if you don’t or can’t cater to their every whim. I run across these people from time to time and in this day and age it’s hard to tell if they are literally crazy or if they use drugs, legal or otherwise. I guess it doesn’t really matter. They fact is, they are self-destructing.
Naturally, I cannot spend too much time worrying about these people because their behavior brings its own punishment. They live a life of uncertainty, never finding any lasting support and wondering if one of the people they have burned is crazier than they are and might retaliate against them. Ugh, what a horrible way to live.
I don’t have a lot of money but I have a lot of social capital. If I got into a jam I have family and friends who would come to my aid in an instant. I have clients who would vouch for my good character. I don’t say this to brag but I hope it helps someone. If you go around town threatening people all the time when they can’t help you, you don’t build social capital. Sadly for you, no one will care if you live or die.
The reason I have people that care about me is because I care about them. I learned some time ago that it’s not all about me. I try to help out where I can and only ask for help when I absolutely need it. And if they can’t help, I let them off the hook graciously. That’s what REAL friends do.
I hear this book is good although maybe he should have called the book, “Living Alone, Dying Alone”. That’s the reality.
Years ago I worked in the medical field and I saw a couple of souls die alone with no family or friends, only paid help around them. I was the paid help in 2 situations and I did my best but I would not want to die that way. Not all “the help” is as nice as I am/was.
If we want people to care for us, we should care for them. Here is the website if you want to learn more about this book and/or buy it. http://bowlingalone.com/
(I’m not a paid advertiser, I just think there are people that could use this book).
In case my regular readers are wondering, I have someone in mind as I write this post. I hope she will read this and consider what I am saying so she will have a better life.